Friends Lovers or Nothing- You Decide.

Things work if you make them work. It takes a lot but it's you who has to decide, if after all its worth it. Be it relationships or friendships or something in between.... All you need to do is prioritize. Who says life's a cakewalk and same goes for things it brings with it. Couples breaking up, friends drifting apart and the tricky problems of the so called friend-zoned.


Nothing is permanent.... not even us. So if you made memories together how do you expect that times aren't going to get trying? You always have the option of saying Bah! Shit Happens! But at the same time you also have the option of valuing what you have and working to put the falling pieces together. It's not easy rather really difficult but the choice is yours.... it's you who decides whether it's worth the effort.


Relationships are the most tricky things. Emotions are vulnerable there. Too raw and too untainted. Problems arise and you have to deal with it. Nobody's perfect, even you are flawed. the question is whether you accept the person like that and then whether you are O.K with it. Everything's rosy and dreamy in the beginning but when reality strikes, is your base strong enough? Did you not know life will get busy? Can you sacrifice two minutes of sleep? Or would you rather just forget it all and walk away just because it is not as convenient? NOTHING good comes without effort.


"A little bit of faith, a little bit of trust
a little bit of never giving up
a little bit you, a little bit me
a little less them, a lot more WE
just a little more of US"                                            
-(Stereo Skyline- A little more us)







Even friendships for that matter need maintenance. Friends are your chosen family and you have to work to keep it alive. Taking for granted is a costly option which you can't afford. I have seen how people get too blinded in "lauu" and give in to the demands of "Don't talk to him, don't talk to her". Get a spine!! And don't let the insecure bitches direct your life. We are far too young to know if this is THE ONE. And when that relationship ends, you better hope your friends still stand by you to bring you back to your senses.


Busy most of the times equals low on priority. At times even though you're dead tired and your head is spinning, you gotta get up and visit your friend. Not because it is an emergency but just because it would mean that much to them.


Many best friends have fights and its TRUE that your best friend and your lover will dislike each other truly madly deeply. The reason of course is attention issues. In your busy day, say you get 10 minutes free. Which number has to be dialed is your choice. For then your emotional quotient is satisfied and later it's not important enough and thereafter slips. There are occasions where you have to make certain conscious efforts to strike a balance, to keep the repelling forces together. Because when the two people who matter most are happy, Life can not get better. 


FRIEND-ZONED a term frequently used. Why do the boundaries have to be so strict? Why does it have to be Friends, Lovers or Nothing? 


Now whats the difference between a best friend and a "friend-zoned admirer". In the latter there are certain strings attached, the feeling beyond friendship and certain level of romantic involvement which is unfortunately not reciprocated. 


You love the person too much to let go. "What went wrong?" you wonder. We were best friends already. It would have been almost the same, only better. But at times for no rhyme or reason it just doesn't click at least at that moment. And as they say, "Relationships are like farts, never force it." :D


So what do you do? You truly have the option of cutting off and convincing yourself that you were kept on the hook for ulterior purposes. But what iff the other person genuinely took you as a best friend, somebody they could trust their lives with? And themselves would go beyond their ways to be there for you. By disconnecting a great friendship would be lost .


Here comes in the question of what matters and how much? You need to question yourself whether the person is too important that losing him/her is not an option. Whether liking was only an additional factor over the base of true friendship? 


At the same time I don't advice you to hang on. You first must know whether you are as important to the person as s/he is to you. Whether your presence is equally appreciated or you are actually being kept on the hook? Don't even try to act God and humans can totally afford to be slightly self-centered Take some time off, deal with it, accept the way it is and if you then wish, come back. But be back before it's too strained. For crushes may come and go but true friends are the ones who stick by your side right till the end. Value what you have but also value yourself.


The choice is yours. May better sense prevail. ~~**